We all had great dreams and aspirations while growing up. Seven out of ten ladies wish that someday, they will fall in love and that guy will finally “pop the question” and they will agree to begin the marital journey together, hopefully, everafter.
I don’t think that any teen mom out there prayed for that fate. No one prayed to get pregnant deliberately in her teen years, drop out of school, feel inferior, depressed and all the crazy things that these ones go through.
Too many times, we haven’t helped these girls feel good and given them hope of a better future. So they try to feel good about themselves and blend in society as if nothing ever happened. They hide their brokeness and pretend as if they are fine when they actually need help. I’m sorry if i have ever treated anyone like this. If you know of such, extend my love to them. Give them this letter, i pray they find it useful.
Dear “Teen Mom”,
✅Face The Fact That You’re Broken And Need Help: Bring yourself to accept the truth glaring in your face that you need help, accept it. Until you admit that you’re broken on the inside, you can’t get fixed. I know you’re pained by the stigma society places on you and all that but you can’t change it. That’s society! They won’t stop judging you nor convicting you so refuse to allow their actions ruin you the more. You may look chic on the outside but on the inside is bitterness. Set your ego aside and begin your recuperation process by admittiing you are broken and need to be fixed asap!
✅Don’t Eliminate Yourself from People Who Can Help You: The good news is, there are still some great persons out there who won’t judge you or call you names. They may not be your relatives but they are ever willing to help you get well. Confront them and let them assist you. You certainly won’t find them when you walk alone and try to do all things by yourself. Associations really matter, you can count on some great ones. Flock with the right people.
✅Don’t Pretend: Ok! You’ve been feigning your persona for too long. Remove that egoistic garment of pretence and throw it somewhere. Trying to live like nothing is wrong when everything isn’t right won’t help you. It won’t make you get on the same page as everyone else. You can wear all the trendy clothes and the finest make up but no amount of all that will help you. Quit the pretence!
✅Don’t Ignore The Lessons The Wounds Were Meant To Teach You: Every circumstance we find ourselves in, somehow, teaches us some lessons, especially, the ugly ones. Don’ repeat the same things you did that led you into the mess you are in now. You know them better. Scars are helpful here. Let them remind you of who/what/where you were, where you ‘re now and where you are going.
✅Get Serious With Your Life: Take this seriously. Clearly, your mates have moved on with their lives and you aren’t on the same page with them now cus at one point you had to pause and nurse your baby. That’s great but your friends didn’t wait for you, they furthered and pursued their dreams. Get back to school if you have to. Get a job! You can’t depend on people your whole life. You need to get back on track and get things going on.
Work on yourself to get back in shape. Hit the gym if you have to.
There are a lot of opportunities waiting for you to tap into today. Don’t let life pass you by. Take control! Remember, life is worth living no matter the circumstance.
Above all these things, God loves you. Anytime you feel down, remember that God takes the foolish things of this world to shame the wise. (1 Cor 1:27) And he makes miracles out of every mess. He will make yours if you let him. He still loves you.
All the very best.
Light and Love.