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Saved But Struggling Sexual Sin?

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These days, the world makes it look like, once you enter a relationship it is a license for sex to happen by all means. Or once you say you are in a relationship, chai! It is happening! Ah!!
Trust me, there are real young people out there who have vowed to keep themselves undefiled until marriage, both guys and ladies.
So don’t be amazed when those accusers come your way and don’t believe that you can still walk in purity this day. Because they’re blinded by sexual immorality, they think everyone else is like them.

However, the fact that you’re saved doesn’t guarantee you freedom over sexual sin. If not, after altar call and confessing Jesus as Lord and personal savior, we will sit down with hands folded and wait to go to Heaven but no. Salvation is a daily process. (See Philippians 2:12, Jude 1:3)
In fact, constantly, the flesh battles with its desires to yield to sexual sin. That’s why we need to mature in the fruit of self control, in endurance, and even, long suffering.

I thought I should stop by and remind you that been saved is only a tip of the ice -berg. You may be saved, yes, but you still live in the flesh and that’s more reason for you to strive and thrive that lust doesn’t consume you.

In your godly relationship, you both want to flee fornication but it doesn’t happen on a silver platter. So;

*Pray for grace and strength each day to continue victoriously on the path you’ve chosen. Sometimes it may look so difficult and impossible but know this, the reward of waiting is over the top, so keep on.

*Consider the places you go to sometimes . Some of the places you hang out together may expose and awaken love. (You know better)
To help you keep your vow to yourselves and to God, spare yourself going to places that may possibly arouse your feelings and lead you both into temptation.

*What kind of conversations do you engage in with your partner? Watch it carefully so you are not tempted to act out your conversation. If you can, I admonish that you keep your conversations sane and holistic. (See Ephesians 4:29)

Sexual sin doesn’t just happen to us. The more we feed it, the more ravenous and perversely diverse it becomes. And the more socially acceptable it becomes, the more it steals, kills, and destroys our lives. We have been saved and bought at a price. We need not let sexual sin ruin this price we have. So, at all costs, we must fight and flee it lest it make us a prisoner of war (1 Corinthians 6:18; 1 Peter 2:11). Some of you say, we can’t be perfect, granted. But in our imperfections, let us thrive to live like Christ.

I wish you a lifetime of grace in your pursuit of holiness . On your wedding day, the hosts of witnesses gathered should be able to say, “we believe in our spirits that God’s hands is in this and it will be forever.”

Some dating folks need to see this message, kindly share it with them. Thanks.

Light and Love,
The Khayil Woman💝

DISCLAIMER⚠️ “I am responsible for the themes I write on per my beliefs. You are responsible for how you understand and interpret it.”

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So You Think You Can Change Him?

Whoever you date should help you grow spiritually and not drag you deeper into sin.

Whoever you date should help you grow spiritually and not drag you deeper into sin.

Many young ladies in church today, for the fear of being lonely or single are ”dating” guys who do not share their values of purity. It’s been said that girls like bad boys and the meaning I derive from this, are boys who go to church alright but have not been saved and think that having sex before marriage is the coolest and latest trend. Purity is like dead news to their ears.

You may have fallen prey to this before where you won’t compromise on your purity yet because you wanted to be flattered by love and receive the affirmation of people like, “hey you know what’s up” or for them not to say you’re “chrife”, you get into a relationship with a boy who goes to church alright, his views on purity and yours are contrasting but you have hopes of changing him to buy into your idea forgetting that only God can change his mind.

To those of us who are not well rooted in the faith, this is a dangerous ground to tread. At the beginning of the relationship, he will assure you he won’t disturb you with sex here and there. You will be blinded by love to feel that hugging, kissing, fondling, fore play etc. are normal because physically, you are not having sexual intercourse and you think, that makes you pure. Hello! Being a virgin and being pure are two different things. Fine, you may be a virgin but your purity has been stained with the doing of all those things. Pray for forgiveness.

Now back to the reason why I’m writing this note. Agreeing to a guy who doesn’t believe your beliefs or shares your values is a deadly decision. He may have said he will change but not all those who go to the hospital are sick and so it is with all the people we see in church go because of Jesus. He may be fine and oh… ojacious too but watch out for wolves in sheep skin. You can’t change him only God can. Step aside and let God work on him without your love interruptions.
If you really love him like you say, simply step aside.

Of course there are those guys who think chastity is old fashioned and no amount of words will ever change their minds. They are not your nut to crack, leave them to God. Someone is cringing and saying that, the real dudes in church don’t look cool and they wear baggies and plenty chains allover in 2016 but the ‘bad guys” are the ones that know what’s up.
Ok! Be reminded, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14  
Dear sister, being single is a phase that every happily married person once went through. If you think it sucks, then I’m sorry but you need it to prepare you for the next stage so it’s essential.
Don’t agree to date a guy with hopes that you can influence him to wait until marriage before sex. (ha! It’s even ridiculous to them)

Focus on you. Delight in doing what pleases God and in His own acceptable time, He will bring you someone who won’t bother you and drag you into sexual sin. If you rush and go ahead of Him confident that you can change this guy in question, you may not get out of the relationship as you went. Plus, whoever you date should help you grow spiritually and not drag you deeper into sin. It’s time to have a self-check! THE END!

Remain blessed. #EM16
I’d love to hear from you. Share your comments with me.

Signed:Jackie Hanson
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Jesus At The Center

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For the umpteenth time, I’ve been asked, “What makes a good relationship”? Let me attempt to answer but just so you know I’m not a relationship expert, in fact I am not even in one. Yet thank God for wisdom and grace to address some of these issues as inspired.

Without a shadow of doubt, I know, that a Christ-centered relationship will thrive.
I know you are itching your head and cringing at this and you are saying “it is not possible in this modern day”.
But lean forward and take this, the fear of God in us will compel us to trust and obey.

The fear of God in us alone will restrain us from doing things in our relationships that are not in agreement with God’s word. Should Nii and I make up our minds to pursue God and to walk with Him in our “dating” period, there will be no room for ungodly acts to have a place in our relationship. Just like David, we pray God, that His word will be hidden in our hearts so that we may not sin against Him.

When we become intentional about making Jesus the center of our relationships, it will be difficult for sin to have dominion over us.

It comes from two people who determine in their hearts not to allow the lusts of the flesh have control over their lives.

Two hearts who say Lord, it is not about us and our desires but doing what pleases you and gives you glory is our business.

Two minds who decide that we will not blend into society’s standard of right and modern but all that matters to us is, that your glory is manifested through our lives in our pursuit of purity.

It is because we trust God’s word that He will add all other things unto us if we seek Him first, so we will trust and obey!!

Not that we are not tempted to fall sometimes but the word of God in our hearts constantly reminds us “to put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts”.  Roman 13:14

May the joy of the Lord strengthen us and may the fear of the Lord in us compel us to build our relationships with Jesus at the center and focus! God bless you.

Light and Love,
Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman

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