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“My Marriage Must Work!”


There’s no joy in living after your parents divorce. Sorry, but now you have to share in the bitterness that wells up in the parent you live with, especially mothers. You know how “petty” they become sometimes and how they will vent their spleen on you at the least provocation. The woes of a single mother as a result of divorce is nothing good to write home about.

Anyway back to the reason for this note. Your marriage must work, yes it must! If you have ever witnessed the harsh ordeal people go through because of an alcoholic, promiscuous, ungrateful, impatient and disloyal husband or wife, you can relate to this better.

You can’t afford a “try and error”. Some of us have been enlightened on some of the possible things that may cost us spending the rest of our lives in misery yet they are the very ones that entice us. Staying in toxic relationships and doing the do, attempting to change someone to fit in your mould, unequally yoking with an unbeliever etc…

Dear Christian Lady, (I address you because I can relate to you better).
I have never been married but I have seen and heard and sometimes shared the pain of the victims of this instance. In as much as God wants to bless us with good things, we also have a role to play. Let’s not pretend we don’t know the scriptures.

I know where I come from and its records, I don’t want to be told as another tale whose marriage didn’t work.
My candid prayer everyday, Lord, lead me and I will follow. Order my steps and open my eyes to see a “Boaz” when I meet one.
It’s a constant battle everyday with our preferences that tend to interphere with God’s plan. You see, while you want him tall and dark, God presents him short and fair😩.

But the real deal is, trusting God means, setting your preferences aside and putting yourself wholly into God’s and totally surrendering that, Lord do it your way. It means denying yourself of your choices and following God’s way.
So the ball is in your court. You still have the choice to choose whether to follow God’s plan for you or you follow your perfect choice of a dream man”.
I can guarantee that, once you allow God to make that choice for you, while you also play your role effectively like Abigail, Ruth, Rebecca, Esther, the Proverbs 31 woman etc… your marriage can’t go wrong.

So God help me and help me to trust your plan. In that I’m safe. Marriage is for better, for worse. Once you enter, no turning back. If then, what must we do?
By all means, my marriage and yours must work!! Share your thoughts with me.
It’s time to have a self check!

Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman


Ishmael Must Go!


Letting go of someone we become fond of sometimes can be very difficult.
Liken it to Abraham’s story in Gen 17, Gen 21
God had promised Abraham he was going to establish his covenant by giving him a child. It then seemed a great idea for him when his wife, Sarah, suggested he laid down with her maid Haggai and bear a child. Indeed Haggai bore a child with Abraham called Ishmael. Ishmael wasn’t the promised seed, he was the permitted seed. The fact that God permitted Ishamel doesn’t mean that was His divine plan for Abraham.


God is faithful and his promise was definitely going to be true. After 13 years when Ishmael was born, God remained silent on Abraham as though He had forgotten about the promise but when the set time he promised was due, Sarah conceived and bore Isaac. Gen 21:3
Those silent years were years that God used to prepare Abraham and Sarah for the next move. God made a miracle out of his mess and mistake of yielding to Sarah’s suggestion of laying with Haggai.


Now Isaac is come and Ishmael has to go. Abraham found it difficult when Sarah sought that he casted Haggai and Ishmael away because Ishmael was his son also but he had to let go of Ishmael so not for him to interrupt Isaac’s inheritance. Gen 21:10-11


Ladies and gents, everything we have in our lives aren’t what God has purposed. We have permitted people in our lives and treated them as though they were permanent when they are meant to be temporal. We delay our destinies when we hold on to such things. Let’s learn to let to accept the doors that God shuts in our lives. God wants to use the negetivity to prepare us for the next dimension. The idea of letting go is to be able to embrace fully, the gifts God has for us out of our past.


God uses those silent years to train us for the next move. So that next time when He asks us to wait, we will learn to wait and trust in His promises. God is a God of second chance who will give us a lot more chances until we get it right.
When the set time is come, you won’t look like anything of your past. He will give you an Esther for a Vesta, you will marry a  Deborah and not a Delilah. Don’t settle. Let go of I5shmael and get ready to embrace your Isaac, he’s on his way!