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“My Marriage Must Work!”


There’s no joy in living after your parents divorce. Sorry, but now you have to share in the bitterness that wells up in the parent you live with, especially mothers. You know how “petty” they become sometimes and how they will vent their spleen on you at the least provocation. The woes of a single mother as a result of divorce is nothing good to write home about.

Anyway back to the reason for this note. Your marriage must work, yes it must! If you have ever witnessed the harsh ordeal people go through because of an alcoholic, promiscuous, ungrateful, impatient and disloyal husband or wife, you can relate to this better.

You can’t afford a “try and error”. Some of us have been enlightened on some of the possible things that may cost us spending the rest of our lives in misery yet they are the very ones that entice us. Staying in toxic relationships and doing the do, attempting to change someone to fit in your mould, unequally yoking with an unbeliever etc…

Dear Christian Lady, (I address you because I can relate to you better).
I have never been married but I have seen and heard and sometimes shared the pain of the victims of this instance. In as much as God wants to bless us with good things, we also have a role to play. Let’s not pretend we don’t know the scriptures.

I know where I come from and its records, I don’t want to be told as another tale whose marriage didn’t work.
My candid prayer everyday, Lord, lead me and I will follow. Order my steps and open my eyes to see a “Boaz” when I meet one.
It’s a constant battle everyday with our preferences that tend to interphere with God’s plan. You see, while you want him tall and dark, God presents him short and fair😩.

But the real deal is, trusting God means, setting your preferences aside and putting yourself wholly into God’s and totally surrendering that, Lord do it your way. It means denying yourself of your choices and following God’s way.
So the ball is in your court. You still have the choice to choose whether to follow God’s plan for you or you follow your perfect choice of a dream man”.
I can guarantee that, once you allow God to make that choice for you, while you also play your role effectively like Abigail, Ruth, Rebecca, Esther, the Proverbs 31 woman etc… your marriage can’t go wrong.

So God help me and help me to trust your plan. In that I’m safe. Marriage is for better, for worse. Once you enter, no turning back. If then, what must we do?
By all means, my marriage and yours must work!! Share your thoughts with me.
It’s time to have a self check!

Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman