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So You Think You Can Change Him?

Whoever you date should help you grow spiritually and not drag you deeper into sin.

Whoever you date should help you grow spiritually and not drag you deeper into sin.

Many young ladies in church today, for the fear of being lonely or single are ”dating” guys who do not share their values of purity. It’s been said that girls like bad boys and the meaning I derive from this, are boys who go to church alright but have not been saved and think that having sex before marriage is the coolest and latest trend. Purity is like dead news to their ears.

You may have fallen prey to this before where you won’t compromise on your purity yet because you wanted to be flattered by love and receive the affirmation of people like, “hey you know what’s up” or for them not to say you’re “chrife”, you get into a relationship with a boy who goes to church alright, his views on purity and yours are contrasting but you have hopes of changing him to buy into your idea forgetting that only God can change his mind.

To those of us who are not well rooted in the faith, this is a dangerous ground to tread. At the beginning of the relationship, he will assure you he won’t disturb you with sex here and there. You will be blinded by love to feel that hugging, kissing, fondling, fore play etc. are normal because physically, you are not having sexual intercourse and you think, that makes you pure. Hello! Being a virgin and being pure are two different things. Fine, you may be a virgin but your purity has been stained with the doing of all those things. Pray for forgiveness.

Now back to the reason why I’m writing this note. Agreeing to a guy who doesn’t believe your beliefs or shares your values is a deadly decision. He may have said he will change but not all those who go to the hospital are sick and so it is with all the people we see in church go because of Jesus. He may be fine and oh… ojacious too but watch out for wolves in sheep skin. You can’t change him only God can. Step aside and let God work on him without your love interruptions.
If you really love him like you say, simply step aside.

Of course there are those guys who think chastity is old fashioned and no amount of words will ever change their minds. They are not your nut to crack, leave them to God. Someone is cringing and saying that, the real dudes in church don’t look cool and they wear baggies and plenty chains allover in 2016 but the ‘bad guys” are the ones that know what’s up.
Ok! Be reminded, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14  
Dear sister, being single is a phase that every happily married person once went through. If you think it sucks, then I’m sorry but you need it to prepare you for the next stage so it’s essential.
Don’t agree to date a guy with hopes that you can influence him to wait until marriage before sex. (ha! It’s even ridiculous to them)

Focus on you. Delight in doing what pleases God and in His own acceptable time, He will bring you someone who won’t bother you and drag you into sexual sin. If you rush and go ahead of Him confident that you can change this guy in question, you may not get out of the relationship as you went. Plus, whoever you date should help you grow spiritually and not drag you deeper into sin. It’s time to have a self-check! THE END!

Remain blessed. #EM16
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Signed:Jackie Hanson


What Kind Of Music Do You Feed On?

Photo Credit: Godlydating101

Photo Credit: Godlydating101

Before I got saved, I loved listening to those songs we call “love songs”. They had a way of making me fall asleep daydreaming of a fairytale love. The kind of love those songs preach aren’t the one that says love is patient, kind, not boastful etc
Love in those songs most times are centered on sex, fornication, lust, adultery et al. They are the complete opposites of what the gospel preaches about love. This boy I thought we were both in love walked out of the relationship one day and left me broken. I resorted to listening to our magical love songs hoping the pain will be nursed. It didn’t but rather aggravated the pain anytime I listened to them. It made me cry and cry yet my lover boy never returned. My healing process begun when I started listening to soul uplifting songs like “What Scars are for – Mandisa”, “In Christ Alone –Newsboys”,” He’s Able – Deittrick Haddon” et al…I realized that anytime I listened to these songs I felt refreshed and hopeful of true and unconditional love and not the kind that those ‘love songs’ preach. What I did with those ones, hmm, your guess is as good as mine.

If you wake up in the morning and the first thing you listen to are songs that promote sex, lust, fornication don’t be surprised when you feel like masturbating to satisfy your desires or chase  everything in skirt or flirt with men. In the same vein when you wake up and meditate on the scriptures, singing Holy Spirit filled songs , you will desire to continually dwell in the presence of God and oh, if you ask me, I bet it’s the best thing that can ever happen to you.  You are what you listen to.

Some of you try to justify why you listen to those songs yet we say we are Christians and say” no one is perfect”. But I say to you, in our imperfection, let’s try to be Christ like.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Signed: Jackie Hanson