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All Men Aren’t The Same

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Photo Credit: GospelTown All Stars

I’ll go straight to the point. You see, not all men are the same.
Yes! I admit we live in a sex saturated and sin filled world but I also believe strongly that there are some guys who strive daily to become like Christ.

Tell you what! Just as you have purposed in your heart never to have sex before marriage, so there is, this guy next door who is even more determined.
Men, just like women, are human beings who have their shortcomings. Don’t dwell on their flaws and place the “you men are all the same” tag on all of them.
Trust me:

There are some who are patient enough to wait until marriage before they think of sleeping with you because if they truly love you, they understand that love is patient and patient enough to wait until “I do” to draw your panties down.

There are real good guys who are bent on helping you become a better Christian. They will pray with and for you and will be able to accommodate you in spirit no matter how long by God’s grace.

There are great guys out there who won’t persuade you to sleep with them and go about the next day telling people how good or bad you are in bed.

Thank God for the brethren out there who don’t speak to their moms and sisters begrudgingly and so they won’t do that to you and gentlemen who will open the car door and pull out the chair for you to sit at dinner.

Need I say that they arent of style too? They also wear denim jeans and d-boots. Uhh!! 21st Century style 😂😂😂

You know why? Because they consider you not just a woman but as Christ’s bride with a responsibility to love and cherish you and present you without any wrinkle and blemish back to Him. Eph 5:25-27
Perhaps, you fell into bad hands because of some traits you exhibited. Like majic, you attracted eachother automatically. I’m just saying…

But now you know better. “Don’t give your pearls to pigs, they will trample over it and turn and tear you into pieces…” Math 7:6
I dedicate this to you who think all men are awfully the same. Filter your mind, brace the reality. That guy has been seeking your attention for long, about time you looked in his direction. Don’t be hard hearted, you could be missing out on a great and potential spouse.
And who says you don’t need a man? No one will tell you, you do, when you  have to be cleaning the garage, moving and carrying huge stuff all by yourself!

Until you find them and they find you, cheers to living like a “Ruth” who wants to be served with a “Boaz”. 😉
Shouts to all the real guys doing it God’s way✌🏾️

Light and Love,
Jackie Hanson.

Disclaimer⚠️ I am responsible for what I write on per my beliefs. You are responsible for how you interpret and understand.


Saved But Struggling Sexual Sin?


These days, the world makes it look like, once you enter a relationship it is a license for sex to happen by all means. Or once you say you are in a relationship, chai! It is happening! Ah!!
Trust me, there are real young people out there who have vowed to keep themselves undefiled until marriage, both guys and ladies.
So don’t be amazed when those accusers come your way and don’t believe that you can still walk in purity this day. Because they’re blinded by sexual immorality, they think everyone else is like them.

However, the fact that you’re saved doesn’t guarantee you freedom over sexual sin. If not, after altar call and confessing Jesus as Lord and personal savior, we will sit down with hands folded and wait to go to Heaven but no. Salvation is a daily process. (See Philippians 2:12, Jude 1:3)
In fact, constantly, the flesh battles with its desires to yield to sexual sin. That’s why we need to mature in the fruit of self control, in endurance, and even, long suffering.

I thought I should stop by and remind you that been saved is only a tip of the ice -berg. You may be saved, yes, but you still live in the flesh and that’s more reason for you to strive and thrive that lust doesn’t consume you.

In your godly relationship, you both want to flee fornication but it doesn’t happen on a silver platter. So;

*Pray for grace and strength each day to continue victoriously on the path you’ve chosen. Sometimes it may look so difficult and impossible but know this, the reward of waiting is over the top, so keep on.

*Consider the places you go to sometimes . Some of the places you hang out together may expose and awaken love. (You know better)
To help you keep your vow to yourselves and to God, spare yourself going to places that may possibly arouse your feelings and lead you both into temptation.

*What kind of conversations do you engage in with your partner? Watch it carefully so you are not tempted to act out your conversation. If you can, I admonish that you keep your conversations sane and holistic. (See Ephesians 4:29)

Sexual sin doesn’t just happen to us. The more we feed it, the more ravenous and perversely diverse it becomes. And the more socially acceptable it becomes, the more it steals, kills, and destroys our lives. We have been saved and bought at a price. We need not let sexual sin ruin this price we have. So, at all costs, we must fight and flee it lest it make us a prisoner of war (1 Corinthians 6:18; 1 Peter 2:11). Some of you say, we can’t be perfect, granted. But in our imperfections, let us thrive to live like Christ.

I wish you a lifetime of grace in your pursuit of holiness . On your wedding day, the hosts of witnesses gathered should be able to say, “we believe in our spirits that God’s hands is in this and it will be forever.”

Some dating folks need to see this message, kindly share it with them. Thanks.

Light and Love,
The Khayil Woman💝

DISCLAIMER⚠️ “I am responsible for the themes I write on per my beliefs. You are responsible for how you understand and interpret it.”


“Cus God Says I’m Priced Far More Than Rubies”


Sex is sex. There is nothing like “protected” or “unprotected sex”. When you’re married and you sleep with someone,it’s sex. Likewise when you are not married and you sleep with someone, it’s still sex.

To us, Christians, (living like Christ) having sex before marriage is unacceptable. It is sin. God knows everything and He’s aware that when you have sex before marriage you might
get pregnant unexpectedly,
attempt abortion, contract STDs and all these and more will have negetive implications on your life one way or the other possibly till the end.

For instance, a teenage girl who comes from a humble home gets pregnant. Automatically, she thwarts her parents efforts of making her a better person and leaves them disappointed. If she’s not fortunate she’s left to fend for herself and her baby alone hustling her way all through life.

The instruction is simple! No sex before marriage. Period! God speaks strongly against fornication throughout the Bible. It’s not a gray area He tip toes around. 1 Cor 6:15-20 speaks extensively about the subject but what touches my heart everytime i visit the scripture is the verse 20. “For you were bought at a price;therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
It’s only foolish people who refuse to take counsel when they know the repucurssions of the act.

Dear sister, how long will you keep having “protected sex” by taking drugs to kill innocent babies to prevent unwanted pregnancies yet damaging your own body in the process while this guy walks around unharmed?
How long will you keep batter trading God’s temple for material things?
And oh don’t you dare think that God will bless you with a fruitful marriage and a happy everafter life while still fornicating. Take it or leave it, God honors those that honor Him. He’s a rewarder of those that diligently seek Him and He says “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all other things shall be added unto you.” Matt 6:33Screenshot_2015-08-04-18-01-58-1

So what is preventing you from living like He wants you to?
Money? Clothes? Gadgets? Cars? Travelling around the world? What?
If any of these or more are the reasons you allow your ego to be stained, then here’s some good news for you. Proverbs 31:10b says, “You’re priced high above rubies”. It means you are more expensive than diamonds are. Don’t take this for granted, girl. You’re a priceless jewel. Material things don’t sum up to your worth. Don’t limit your value to anything not even diamonds. God created you beautiful for a reason, not merely sleeping around with men.
Until the guy waits in holiness and marries you, don’t give him the chance to enjoy what he hasn’t paid for. If he thinks you’re not an attractive figure let him go. Truth is, he has seen the product and doesn’t have the price that the ticket says must be paid. Sometimes rejection is a blessing and not a curse. Screenshot_2015-08-04-18-21-16-1-1
God bought you at a price and He wants you to be presented to Him without blemish or wrinkles.

Perhaps you didn’t know. Now you do. Make ammends,never too late.
Abstaining sex before marriage doesn’t make you “holier than thou” neither does it guarantee your going to Heaven. It gives you a hope of salvation and it shows that you trust God to reward you as you obey Him.
Don’t be moved. We live in a sex saturated world where they make sex seem like the only gateway to a beautiful life. Social media platforms won’t stop crooning about it. Bloggers won’t stop offering the tips. Musicians won’t stop endorsing it in their music. Telenovelas won’t stop demonstrating it. What about you?

Renew your mind. Shun the former ways. Ask God for forgiveness. Accept the gift of righteousness. Walk in holiness. Have faith in God to lead you to someone in His own timing who will appreciate and treasure you as God’s bride whose worth is far more than diamonds. Screenshot_2015-08-04-17-58-18-1

To my fellow sisters on this journey, i know it’s not easy but don’t give up. I pray for abundant grace on your pursuit of holiness. I know it will end well with you. Hold on!

Light and Love,
Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman