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The Wounded Soldier

IMG_2738Grace got unequally yoked with an unbeliever, got into an ungodly relationship that left her broken in the long run. Michael was betrayed by a friend, almost a brother, whom he trusted so much. Jasmine lost her parents in a gory accident, they were staunch Christians, and she wondered why God didn’t save them and left them to die the way they did. All these people were Christians but they got wounded.

As Christians, we encounter different levels of heart wrenching experiences that cause us so much pain then get in between our walk with God. Some of these are avoidable while others are inevitable, like death. For the latter ones, we know that our warfare is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces. Therefore it gives us very little ability to know when they will come in order to prepare to face them. How about those we can avoid from happening to us, like Grace’s.

Right from the onset, something about the self-styled perfect relationship didn’t look good. It was bound to fail especially for Grace whose Christian faith opposed the principles upon which the relationship started. Not that she was oblivious to the fact, she allowed her emotions to take control of her. What more? She got desperate and lost faith in God’s ability to lead her to someone in His own timing.

Slowly, she drifted. She prayed less, stopped reading and meditating on the word and stopped engaging actively in the things of God like she used to. Then the worse happened. The guy left and sister was devastated. Whose fault?

Maybe like Grace, your wounds look a lot like rejection, fear, frustration, shame, insecurity or isolation. Or perhaps the scars on your heart show up in the form of bitterness, anxiety, addiction, oppression, or depression.

Sin presents itself in different levels and when we give it the power, it comes between our relationship with God and as real as it may sound, when sin gets in our way with God, we lose confidence in going back to dwell in His presence. The scars of the wounds remind us where we were and the pains feel fresh.
We don’t have to live our lives licking our wounds when God’s Word is full of power-packed passages that offer the cure for whatever is ailing us. Here are a few guides to recovery.

1. Recognize Your Wound: Healing starts when we realize that we are weak and need help. The first step to getting freed from infirmity is accepting that there’s pain lingering on in our hearts and we need to get rid of it.

2. Retreat For Treatment: It’s good to withdraw sometimes from the world, get locked in your closet, dwell in His presence and glean of Him. The quietness that comes with staying alone away from the world and social media refreshes your spirit and energizes you. It gives you the opportunity to work out your salvation and deepens your relationship with God. When you retreat, you come to a place of pleasing an audience of one without being tempted to pretend like you got it all together.

3. Repent And Return: My pastor always says that “There can be no forgiveness without true repentance”. True repentance goes beyond feeling sorry but realising that sin is evil and detesting the thought of it. If we desist from evil because of its ability to ruin us, it’s not enough. Rather, when we hate it because God hates it too. From this point, we can experience God’s forgiveness. After repentance, return to the former works and please God like never before. Support others and show compassion to other wounded soldiers, give them hope and show them the way.

4. Rest On His Promises: Trusting God’s word doesn’t always seem easy as it sounds especially when you can’t see beyond the circumstance. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of our wounds and wind up wearing them as badges of honour. God is unchangeable and so are His promises. “They are ye and Amen”. So whether we choose to admit it or not, His promises will still be and He will remain faithful. When the times comes, he does as He says He will.

Good news is, we don’t have to live the rest of our lives wounded. God waits for us with open arms and He is our endless comforter. That part of scripture that says “He heals the broken-hearted, and binds up their wounds” gives me so much warmth.

I don’t know what wounds you wear, it may be smelly and look so bad beyond repair but Let Jesus in, He’s the balm of Gilead and he says “There is more in the balm to heal than there is in guilt to wound; for there is more in grace to save than there is in sin to destroy.” Jer 8;22 Let this be your inspiration!

Signed: The Khayil Woman
Jackie Hanson

Ps: This message is inspired by a message preached by Ps Jacob Ahenkorah at one of Lifeline Ministries’ all-night service.

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Recuperation Process

 

Screenshot_2015-07-13-08-04-01-1Break up is never a pleasant thing to experience. Dealing with having to completely forget about a “sweet heart” and how to overcome the hurt after break up is even more devastating especially when you still love the person and can’t let go.

Whatever they said  was the reason to dump you like “i’m sorry,it’s not you,it’s me” “i don’t want you to get hurt…(but you’re hurting me anyway) “i need some space” ….blah! symbolises that they are done with you and are/have moved on.

In instances where your high expectations aren’t met,you’re left crest fallen and disappointed. The feeling is galling!Screenshot_2015-07-12-22-39-49-1

Must you still stay in the tunnel hoping he comes back to ignite the flame again? I’m sorry dear but some dreams donot come true. You got to rise up and shake the misery off at once. Here are some few nuggets i pray will be helpful.

1.Return To Your First Love:
 
Maybe your relationship wasn’t Christ centered so you invested some valuable time doing ungodly things to please your patner that you found little or no time for God. Now he’s gone and left you without a shoulder to cry on. Truth is,your first love, God, has been and is still patient waiting for you to return to be comforted by Him. Go back to Him in prayer for forgiveness. He will forgive and heal your bruises without a scar and give you hope.

2.Have Time For God:       Already you have spent enough time away from God seeking love that rendered you broken. Staying indoors crying over spilt milk won’t bring him back. Get busy working for God with your talent. You’ll experience a great feeling of joy as you keep doing what pleases Him. In fact,it’s a great thing to serve the Lord.

3.Stay Beautiful:         Most times girls especially, allow themselves for the breakup to have its toll on them. So obvious that one wouldn’t struggle to tell that she’s suffering a heart break. She leaves herself unappealing and virtually puts no effort to look good. You don’t want to give that guy reason to believe that you can’t live without him when actually you are better off without him.

Telling the world how broken you are by your appearance won’t majically join the pieces together. Add a touch to yourself and while at it, let your inner beauty glitter.

4.Let Go:                   Times will come when you will miss them but clearly this other person has managed to cut all ties with you. They don’t call or text and you want to tell them you miss them? That’s unwise! If they can keep their distance, why not you too? It’s not ego. It’s accepting the fact that sometimes in life you can’t have everything you wish to have”

5.Give Love A Chance:I think it’s awkward to conclude that you won’t love again. The fact that the former didn’t work out doesn’t mean the latter is bound to fail. Sometimes, such bitter experiences are meant to take us through the mill to prepare us for the future.

You may consider the failed relationship as God’s ways of delivering you from further harm, don’t be hard on yourself. By giving love another chance, it shows that you trust God and believe that He will honour you if you honour Him in His perfect time.

Open up and smile back at your potentials, you could be missing out on a great spouse God is working out for you…just because? Give love a chance, you need some affection in your life!

Recuperation is a process! I wish you well as you go through healing. Hope it ends well with you.Recuperation Process

Love and Light,
Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman

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