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No one likes to be rejected. Ughh!!! The word alone stings. Everyone at some point in their lives have experienced rejection in one way or the other. Need I mention how heart breaking the experience is, especially when you put in your heart, works, ideas and it’s thrown in the bin in your face, hmm. It’s never a good thing to experience at least at the time.  

My news editor after journalism school, a few times threw my work in the bin and asked me to go write it all again. It was so disgusting and very mean of him, but anytime I let go of the fury and concentrated and re-wrote the article, it came out better.

Most times, we fail to grasp the positive impact it’s meant to have on us but dwell on the negative. Because every statement of rejection is fashioned to teach us and expose us to greater opportunities. We will miss it if we spend the rest of lives busily licking old wounds and crying over spilt milk. Here are 5 reasons why rejection is good to us as Christians:

*God has the best plans: If you can imprint this on the tablet of your heart, you won’t fret when you are rejected from the job, love interest etc… At that point in time when you pursue that desire, you lose yourself into thinking, that particular project is the best thing that can ever happen to you. But when the unfortunate happens, be reminded that He who created you knows you and has plans that will prosper you and give you an expected end. Chill!  

*It teaches you a lesson on patience and endurance: Once you are rejected, patience as a virtue comes whispering in your ears to wait on God for His acceptable year when you can have the best package He has for you. If you fail to appreciate the lesson of patience and endurance, you will go back and you will be rejected time and time again. It’s out of waiting that our strength is renewed. Take time to heal the wound, trust God and wait on Him. Wait, wait, wait!  

*It’s a challenge for you to become a better person: Consider rejection as an avenue for you to improve and become a better person. Where it requires skills, personal grooming, communication skills etc… let it be an inspiration for you to simply become better! Spend time, prepare and invest into yourself then wait for the next shift in your life. No one or company would reject a good material. Be better than you used to be

*It gives you full proof that God will give you good and better than whatever you lost: Take a moment and reminisce. If you are true to yourself, you’ll realize that every time you thought you had lost something good, your come-back was way greater and bigger. If God did it once, He will do it again. Simply, trust!  

*It helps you to have empathy on others: No experience is wasted. Rejection teaches you to be empathic towards other people. So that next time when you are tried to be mean towards someone, you know what it feels like to go through that kind of suffering. Rejection helps us to be compassionate.  

Joseph was rejected by his brothers and sold into slavery, he went through too many trials yet God used those trials to prepare him to become the prime minister of Egypt. God always has the master plan. Today you may be rejected, but it won’t always be like this. Besides, rejection shouldn’t be labelled as something that killed you. When it hits you, rise up, dust yourself and move on. One day you’ll look back at all the no’s and disappointments you have had in your life and you will be so thankful that you were rejected.  Don’t ever give up!
I’d love to hear from you how rejection has helped you in your lifetime. Kindly share your experiences with me..

Light and Love,


Jesus At The Center


For the umpteenth time, I’ve been asked, “What makes a good relationship”? Let me attempt to answer but just so you know I’m not a relationship expert, in fact I am not even in one. Yet thank God for wisdom and grace to address some of these issues as inspired.

Without a shadow of doubt, I know, that a Christ-centered relationship will thrive.
I know you are itching your head and cringing at this and you are saying “it is not possible in this modern day”.
But lean forward and take this, the fear of God in us will compel us to trust and obey.

The fear of God in us alone will restrain us from doing things in our relationships that are not in agreement with God’s word. Should Nii and I make up our minds to pursue God and to walk with Him in our “dating” period, there will be no room for ungodly acts to have a place in our relationship. Just like David, we pray God, that His word will be hidden in our hearts so that we may not sin against Him.

When we become intentional about making Jesus the center of our relationships, it will be difficult for sin to have dominion over us.

It comes from two people who determine in their hearts not to allow the lusts of the flesh have control over their lives.

Two hearts who say Lord, it is not about us and our desires but doing what pleases you and gives you glory is our business.

Two minds who decide that we will not blend into society’s standard of right and modern but all that matters to us is, that your glory is manifested through our lives in our pursuit of purity.

It is because we trust God’s word that He will add all other things unto us if we seek Him first, so we will trust and obey!!

Not that we are not tempted to fall sometimes but the word of God in our hearts constantly reminds us “to put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts”.  Roman 13:14

May the joy of the Lord strengthen us and may the fear of the Lord in us compel us to build our relationships with Jesus at the center and focus! God bless you.

Light and Love,
Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman


Put A Praise On It

Put A Pra

Put A Pra

So, i had to go through the pain of “broken heart” before i got saved. It was after that rough time i saw the need to retrace my steps to Jesus for Him to touch me and heal my bruises. Anytime i look at that scar, it reminds me of who i was, who i am and where i’m going now.Anyway…back to why i’m writing this to you.

When i got dumped, I was so pained that until the dude apologised, which he never did, I wished for every bad thing to happen to him to get him crawling back to me. I wanted to see him dragged into the mud i was in so he would know and feel what it is to get dirty.
I wanted Karma to deal him an unfair hand. Oh yes! I waited and watched days turn into months and subsequently a year and some months without hearing the worst case scenario happen. I was stalking him on social media and anyway i knew how. Pathetic huh? I pray it never happens to you.

I was too hurt to see light in the situation.
Today I look back on the past and smile. I hear God tell me clearly that, “you had to go through that phase to become who you are today”.
I had to go through all that mess in order to get the inspiration of building a citadel of virtue for young girls to abstain sex before marriage and also to become virtuous and phenomenal women.

Every situation, good, bad and even the ugly work together for your good. Rom 8:28. All the circumstances that have occured and will occur have been carefully structured to take place to give you a testimony for tommorrow. You could be the next person inspiring generations and healing nations. It’s a process.

Would you put on your garment of praise and give God some praise for taking you through it all?
I pray God opens our eyes to see and thank Him for whatever that He allows to come our way. He will make a miracle out of the mess.
Give thanks in season and out of season, that’s the will of God. 1 Thess 5:18

If you don’t remember anything at all i have said in this note, please don’t forget that… “All things work together for the good of those who love God according to His purpose” Rom 8:28.
Whatever the situation, it will end in praise and you will give God the glory.

Light and Love,
Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman