You may have heard so many reasons why young women prefer married men and be disgusted at how some of them sound. Some swear that as long as they live, they will only pursue married men. What’s the inspiration? Amongst all the ‘almost reasonable’ things I have heard about this matter, the lamest I heard recently was that, the lady claimed the man said his wedded wife could not cook well. Guess who is the world’s best chef? Your guess is as good as mine.
I sampled people’s views on the subject to know what their candid opinions were. Majority of the people I spoke to out rightly condemned the act on moral and secular values. A few, however, admitted, that although it was wrong, they condone the act because circumstances lead people to do the unthinkable and so they would never say never. What about me? If you are expecting me to end this write up by concluding that sleeping with someone’s husband is good or bad, then I’m sorry to burst your bubble. However, I’d like to get you to think about these things:
1.What is good for the goose is good for the gander: If the only choice you had to solve that dire circumstance that almost killed you but didn’t kill you was to sleep with your fellow woman’s husband, and cause him to be an irresponsible man, a cheat and a liar, I don’t know what kind of abomination it is then, if your husband should bring someone either than you into your matrimonial bed. For all you know the person could be going through something even worse than yours at the time you were crawling in and out of someone’s husband’s bed. So why not?
2. Woe unto the one who causes someone’s downfall: If you are the reason someone’s husband stays out late at night, doesn’t eat from his wife’s pot, treats his wife like garbage and makes his wife look like the devil himself, Matthew 18:7 says, “Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come!” Let it not be said of you that you put asunder what God put together. I bet you can’t carry the weight of the wrath that will come upon you. Let that cup pass you by.
3. Wouldn’t you rather be the first, one and only than ‘a go-to -need’? What dignity is there in being a side chick? What’s the point in being the other woman when you can be someone else’s main woman? Isn’t it a total waste of time especially when you know this person won’t leave his wife for you? Oh he spends lavishly on you? Is that all? Is that all you live for? Is it that you can’t find anything worth to do with your life than this? Your worth is so much more, why lower your standards? Imagine Haggai being driven away from Abraham after Sarah gave birth to Isaac. She was only sitting somewhere minding her business when Sarah suggested to her to lay with her husband, now picture Haggai being sent away because Isaac had come. Was it her fault at all? How much more you?
4. If he loves you like he says indeed, he will leave his wife and marry you. That’s just about it. Maybe you’re refusing to see but look, just look, even if he spends the whole time with you on your escapades, he still goes back home to his wife. You hate it when he leaves but he assures you he will be back soon. In the long run, he still goes back home and leaves you in the cold of the night. Is this what you want to live the rest of your life for? Would you be proud to look back on the decisions you made in some twenty years to come?
Young girls should stay away from married men. If they are the ones that pursue you, flee their temptation. As long as you hope to get married someday, you will reap whatever you sow into people’s marriages. The rate at which marriages are breaking lately is alarming and one of the underlying factors is as a result of infidelity.
Wives, pray for your husbands for their love for God to increase so they can extend it to you. Their love for God will compel them to love you the way that Christ would.
God is mighty to save and His hands are not shortened to save, neither is He deaf not to hear those who call on Him. Isaiah 59:1
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8