Melissa looked down at David on one knee as tears rolled down her eyes. She had rejected Dave’s marriage proposal and David was shocked without any idea why she said ‘No”. He was hopeful the well planned night was going to be a positive one but the lady wasn’t having it.
David was every young girl’s dream. His looks were charming, he was highly intelligent and had recently graduated with a doctorate degree at age 29. He had secured a job with one of the top private oil companies in the city and to say life was going well is an understatement.
Melissa was beautiful, calm yet strong willed. She was clever and paid utmost attention to the slightest detail. She was passionate about the things of God and won’t trade her values for Brazilian hair or Zara shoes. She worked with a tele-communications company and had risen through the ranks to become the company’s first female Director of operations. She was doing very well for a girl at her age.
They met on trotro when Melissa was interning at the company she works for now about 5 years ago. Dave was headed the same direction too. He was struck by her beauty that morning and so, he didn’t miss the least opportunity he got to talk with Mel. He tried to start a conversation but Melissa looked as if she wasn’t in the mood. He persisted. “Let me pay your fare”. She replied snubbing him, “No, I will, myself “.
“Ok then you pay for me”…This time with a grimace on her face in an attempt to make this ‘NO’ resound in his ears and heart if possible.
He paid for her irrespective of the strong warning. Melissa was amazed at this new guy’s persistent persona, like, a go getter. That was how they became friends…
She was there when David lost her mother that fateful day in a gory accident, after being hit by a truck, she was the first he called when he heard about his mom’s demise. She was there when David applied for the scholarship abroad and was denied 4 times. She was there when David’s ex-girlfriend accused him of impregnating her. She was there when Dave finally gained admission to Massachusetts Institute of Technology, she had been with him through thick and thin. She was his ride or die.
David only realized how much Melissa meant to him when he was away from home. So he had made plans that when he finally got home, he will marry her. He disclosed his love interest to her a night before he left and left it for her to think through. Mel had always known that David liked her but she didn’t know it was that deep. But really…she also had a soft spot for him and so it looked more as if it was in the right direction.
Fast forward today, why was Melissa saying No to David? It called for a lot of thoughts to rush through his mind. He demanded to know what was going on and she was ready to spill the bean. Not that she didn’t love him? Yes she did but….
David had an ill attitude that Melissa abhorred. He never liked to say sorry when he was at fault. You’d say it was pride, there was more to it. He also believed that as a woman, you win a man’s heart and attention when you subject to his decisions and actions even when they are ill fated. She tried several times to make him understand that she wasn’t pleased with his attitude but Dave will tag her a nag and give her no room to talk about it. She dealt with his attitude for a long time and pretended as though everything was ok. There was even a time Dave told her when she tried to complain that, if she couldn’t put up with him, she could walk away but Melissa stayed in hopes that he will change. She wasn’t happy! But David was an amazing guy, very thoughtful and kind but all that will mean nothing to Mel if he didn’t deal with that canker.
So that was it. She mustered courage and let if off her chest.
At the end, David had his head buried in his palms and found it difficult to speak. Finally when he found his voice, he admitted to Mel’s claims and here’s what he had to say:
“Mel, I won’t dispute all that you’ve said, it’s true. Can you blame me? It’s exactly how I saw my father treat my mom. I thought it was the best way cus after all, my parents were married for 32 years until my mom passed. I only got to know through my Auntie Tina that, my mother wasn’t happy in her marital life although she looked as if she was the happiest woman alive. She even went on to say that she thinks it was better she passed cus she was going through unbearable pain married to a man like my dad.
However, I never knew my behaviour will cost me to the extent of losing you. I thought it was the best thing to do to keep our relationship ablaze. I thought you loved the idea of getting married and having a family but if my attitude can make you rescind your decision, I bet it’s serious than what it looks like. You are good woman and every man will be blessed to have you, I can’t afford to let you go. I promise to do anything to make me a better man, you just name it.
Mel gawked at Dave in amazement. Did he mean all that he just said? She thought 💭
Long story short, Dave accepted to start a counselling session to help him manage his character.
Melissa agreed to be by his side as he went through therapy but she insisted he held on to the 20 carat diamond ring 💍 in the meantime.
You’ll think her reason for her actions is ridiculous but that was her own way of sending a message across to the world and to ladies like herself who will batter trade their values, happiness among other things all in the name of getting married or for a diamond ring.
Truth be told, not everyone is fashioned to get married anyway. Thank God when you get a good spouse but don’t settle just because everyone else is getting married, don’t beat yourself to death.
Not that Melissa was perfect, neither did she intend to make David a perfect man, all she wanted was to have a better man who will help in creating a happy environment for the future.
Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman