What a potential hubby seemed to me a few years back was what I saw on the outside. But what could be more heartwarming than a well-built tall dark man with a good paying job, a fancy car, who will pay me unaware visits and pick me up to concerts, buy me chocolates on Valentine’s day, introduce me to his parents and family, wake me up to beautiful text messages, daze me with surprise parties on my birthday and of course have a very good command over the Queen’s language? You tell me.
To the world, all these I daydreamed of were fine but growing in the knowledge of Christ tells me unapologetically that, that’s foolishness! What’s a man’s life without the God factor? Meaningless! What kind of children can this man possibly help me raise? Can he present me spotless without wrinkles before God?
Consider this a sequel to my earlier post (BECOMING THE RIGHT WOMAN). Now, if I’m training myself to become the Proverbs 31 woman then I have the right to demand the Ephesians 5:25-33 man. As I pursue holiness, my potential husband should have that as priority too. So that he will discipline himself not to go around sleeping with everything in skirt till I arrive. (Ephesians 5:3-5)Rather, he should be filled with the word by meditating on His word day and night. Not just meditating but doing the word. (James 1:22) Concerning Prayer, he should be a prayerful man. “A prayerless man is a powerless man”
Enhancing the Kingdom of God should be the heartbeat of a potential husband. He should love to win lost souls and yearn to reach them to the amazing grace of God just as he’s been saved. He should do without apology the work of an evangelist and make full proof of his ministry. (2Timothy 4:5) Only then can he be rewarded someday with the crown of life. It’s not enough if the man I’m dating now is handsome and rides in a fancy car. Handsome isn’t prime.
Yet again, his willingness to put others first before himself will predict what our family would look like. (1Corinthians 10:24)
A selfish man will bring nothing but grief to the family while a godly man will set his desires aside without making you feel guilty about it and practically reflect the grace of God in what he says and does.
Fine, money is essential for a marriage to thrive but something more than money will be needed to calm nerves down when marital storms roar. That’s wisdom! (Proverbs 4:7). He needs wisdom to deal with situations when they get out of hand as a man. His ability to deal with these situations without hurting my feelings with his actions or words would determine his maturity in the word of God.
If my beloved speaks begrudgingly of his parents and treats them with dishonor, I better advice myself. But if he exhibits calmness in addressing them, I bet I will be blessed with a beautiful relationship with my future in-laws.
To this end, I pray God helps us to live by these precepts and uncover to us even more of what we need to become the right persons. Amen.
An “Ephesians 5:25-33″ man deserves a “Proverbs 31″ woman and It takes more than diamonds to woo her.
SIGNED: Jackie Hanson
(The Khayil Woman)