Break up is never a pleasant thing to experience. Dealing with having to completely forget about a “sweet heart” and how to overcome the hurt after break up is even more devastating especially when you still love the person and can’t let go.
Whatever they said was the reason to dump you like “i’m sorry,it’s not you,it’s me” “i don’t want you to get hurt…(but you’re hurting me anyway) “i need some space” ….blah! symbolises that they are done with you and are/have moved on.
Must you still stay in the tunnel hoping he comes back to ignite the flame again? I’m sorry dear but some dreams donot come true. You got to rise up and shake the misery off at once. Here are some few nuggets i pray will be helpful.
1.Return To Your First Love:
Maybe your relationship wasn’t Christ centered so you invested some valuable time doing ungodly things to please your patner that you found little or no time for God. Now he’s gone and left you without a shoulder to cry on. Truth is,your first love, God, has been and is still patient waiting for you to return to be comforted by Him. Go back to Him in prayer for forgiveness. He will forgive and heal your bruises without a scar and give you hope.
2.Have Time For God: Already you have spent enough time away from God seeking love that rendered you broken. Staying indoors crying over spilt milk won’t bring him back. Get busy working for God with your talent. You’ll experience a great feeling of joy as you keep doing what pleases Him. In fact,it’s a great thing to serve the Lord.
3.Stay Beautiful: Most times girls especially, allow themselves for the breakup to have its toll on them. So obvious that one wouldn’t struggle to tell that she’s suffering a heart break. She leaves herself unappealing and virtually puts no effort to look good. You don’t want to give that guy reason to believe that you can’t live without him when actually you are better off without him.
Telling the world how broken you are by your appearance won’t majically join the pieces together. Add a touch to yourself and while at it, let your inner beauty glitter.
4.Let Go: Times will come when you will miss them but clearly this other person has managed to cut all ties with you. They don’t call or text and you want to tell them you miss them? That’s unwise! If they can keep their distance, why not you too? It’s not ego. It’s accepting the fact that sometimes in life you can’t have everything you wish to have”
5.Give Love A Chance:I think it’s awkward to conclude that you won’t love again. The fact that the former didn’t work out doesn’t mean the latter is bound to fail. Sometimes, such bitter experiences are meant to take us through the mill to prepare us for the future.
You may consider the failed relationship as God’s ways of delivering you from further harm, don’t be hard on yourself. By giving love another chance, it shows that you trust God and believe that He will honour you if you honour Him in His perfect time.
Open up and smile back at your potentials, you could be missing out on a great spouse God is working out for you…just because? Give love a chance, you need some affection in your life!
Love and Light,
Signed: Jackie Hanson
The Khayil Woman